Friendship

Every one has friends and some of us have plenty of good friends and if you are lucky enough , you have one or two real best friends. Who knows you inside and outside, who often speak your mind even when you are in silence. Some one who knocks your head when you are in the wrong path, some one to hugs you and supports you when you fall, some one who cries together with you in your sorrow, someone that is not scare to share his success or failure with you.

Like Oprah said : a true friend is some one who walks with you when your " limo" broke down. Not those who wants only to ride in your limo...

I am blessed that through the years of my life, I have many good friends and some a truly best friends. Who grew with me, witnessing me to evolved to a person who I am today. Who's been there through thick and thin and yes... a true friends need to be in touch and no distance nor space can tore the friendship apart.

Friendship is one of most important thing in live . I always try to encourage my children to nurture their friendship skills, because I believe to be a good friends you will need to have some skills, such as : to love your self, to respect others, to accept the differences and to look beyond the differences it self. A true friend closed one eyes and in friendship you will also need a lot gratitude.

The quote that I love and capture it all is:

“Much of the vitality in a friendship lies in the honoring of differences, not simply in the enjoyment of similarities.

I always remind my self and my children to loves our selves first. It is so much important to be comfortable and accept us for who we are.

It is lack of love for ourselves that inhibits our compassion toward others. If we make friends with ourselves, then there is no obstacle to opening our hearts and minds to others

How about filtering friends? It is a dangerous world now anyway. There are a lot of bad people out there or people with bad influence. Should we be nice to everyone?

I believe friendship , like love, also build based on "chemistry" . It is either you have it or you don't. And the strong based in our family' s values in life will give our children the fences and filter they will need to choose their friends or better yet to protect themselves to certain people that could give the bad influence in their lives. ( same thing when it comes to choosing life partner)

But again, I think, with certain personal values in mind, when I make friends, I always remind my self that:

Every person is a new door to a different world.

Like most of us , I had a bad experiences in friendships before. There were heartache, dis-agreements, betrayals, backstabbing and some might ended in the loosen of the friendship it self. But that doesn't make me scare to start to know new people with different background from me or come from a different place . I will always take the risk of having betrayal, heartache , backstabbing . Because as they said, every person will show me a different world. In some way I can learn something and anything from that person. And when you found the "right friend" I think the whole heartache things you get from the "bad" friends will totally worth it!

So "Friendship is like money, easier made than kept.”

Keep that in mind and you shall be grateful for all of your friends today. And it needs to be nurture from time to time and be respected. And never take any friendship for granted.

To celebrate the Friendship day ( first Sunday of August), to all of my new and old, real and "virtual/blog" friends , those who lives near me or miles apart, no matter where you are or who you are, what skin colors do you have, what language do you speak , which accent do you have..........

Happy Friendship day, and you all have opened a new world to me! Thank you....

I might said a wrong words , did the wrong things and made bad decision but that is all about it after all. The imperfection is the perfection. If there is any one who only wants to be friends with the perfect some one, he/she shall close the door from friendship forever.

If this 2 very different species can look each other eyes by eyes and make peace with their differences , can we do the same as well?

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“It is one of the severest tests of friendship to tell your friend his faults. So to love a man that you cannot bear to see a stain upon him, and to speak painful truth through loving words, that is friendship.”