Like all of parents , there is always some attitudes in our children that bother us. And that can be anything : they way they speak, the thing they don't eat , the thing they eat too much, their bad habits or their personal traits.
But have any of us be honest that some of that annoying habits are actually come from ourselves? It is either we "inherit" them or without realizing it, we give them the bad example .
I did realized that a few of my girls bad habits came from me. It is either the way I speak (I think in certain time I speak in certain tone, I didn't realize that the tone is not so nice to hear, but when I heard my girl said it, I feel like hmmm maybe I shouldn't speak like that ); the way I do things ( due to laziness , I do throw some dirty laundry from the staircase to the ground floor, I saw my dd2 did the same with the toys, and I keep a mental note to my self that I should't do that again) , or react to certain situation.( I screamed when I saw lizard , so what can I expect my children do when they see one?)
But NOT all bad behaviours come from us, some times the caretaker, teacher, friends, grandparents, uncle or aunts also will take part on their up bringing.
But again, as for me, for that part we can talk to let our children understand which one is good and which one is not good.
" Hitting other kids is not a good thing to do, so do not hit" but if the parents hit the children, what would the children think?
or " Eat your veggie but the parents do not eat theirs" who 's to blame ?
What will I expect from my girls based of my self ?
I won't be surprise if:
They listen to music out loud
Messy and not organized ( :p)
Like make up, shoes and bags
Ok so that are the negative (?) traits, I hope they will take my positive traits too !
So the fruits won't fall far from the tree indeed. But again some how some way, there are times we were wondering : Why do some of our children's traits are not from you or your husband at all? In my case : my dd1 loves to perform in singing or dancing, that is absolutely not me. That is my sister! And my niece is more shy and avoid to be the centre of attention ( unlike her mom , which is my sis of course) and my sis said : that is so you (me)!
So what can you tell when my 6 years old said she loves the song RING OF FIRE ( she can even sing the tune) and she also love NO BOUNDARIES? Plus she can follow the STARLIGHT AND SUPERMASSIVE BLACK HOLE's tunes by MUSE? Or my soon to be 3 years old can request Beyonce's I AM A SINGLE LADY song to be play on the PC so that she can dance to it?
Well I have no comment on that! :)
What is your children annoying habit/trait/behaviour that you think you be responsible for?
3 comments:
Sometimes when my kids are speaking Bahasa ALL the time, I once in a while ask them to speak in English for a change. So sometimes when I speak in Bahasa, Izzo will say "Mama, speak in English!". Kena pulak I :P
I've also heard Izzo say to our maid, "Laaa tak faham ke..?". Must MUST be careful of what we say infront of them :)
Agree , we must watch what and how we say to our maid or how we treat them.
the last thing I want is children with no respect to them.
Al though they work for us but still they are children and need to respect the maid.
I 've witness some rude behaviour to their maid or even other's maid.
I like to point fingers at lil C and said," C, listen to me ok. If you dont, then I am not talking to you/(or do favours for you if you ask for one)."
and guess what. he sometimes said,"Mama, if you dont listen to me, I would not listen to you when you call me to bathe (etc etc etc)"
and baby C,"nyak nyak nyak nyak"... pointing finger at his brother... and that irritates all of us! LOL!!
Indeed our kids are our own mirror!!!
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