Is it not the strongest of the species that survive,nor the most intelligent,but the one most responsive to change.
(Charles Darwin)
(Charles Darwin)
This is a quote I got from a dear friend's. And I think it is very interesting . Most of the time, we think that the smartest, or strongest will win or survive, but this quote mentioned about the ability to adapt or the responsive to change.
Personally I think this is true. We need to leave our "comfort zone" sometimes in our life, to be able to survive. We can find another comfort zone if we WANT to.
Apart of our adolescence life, I think also it is great to let our kids to take changes in life, to be more flexible. It will help us as parents too!
HOW?
Let your children used to many kind of different taste of food, a wider variety,
Many told me that I am lucky to have children that eat "everything" and not fussy. And meal time normally is a easy time for me. Of course it will be messy! But I don't have to chase and force my kids to eat.
This is VERY Helpful during family traveling and outing. We need to eat 3x a day, imagine if you stress up over what to feed your kids for every meals! It is like half of your day is gone.
Me and my husband also set a good example in front of our children. We eat everything on the table and we do not give many option to change the dishes even if they don't like it. We always say : TRY IT! and you will love it.
And often I told them that : Mamma is on a buffet restaurant that open 24 hours. What you see on the table is what you get.
Sound harsh? Actually it is for their best too. Of course I will serve the appropriate food for children
My In laws are all amazed by how well our children eat. Even it is a new food in a new place .
If your kids need a security blanket, or pillow or soft toys then it is good . You can bring this if you sleep outside.
If a child got a difficult time to adapt to a new environment , it will be hard for the parents too.
Don't blame the child or yourself. But once in a while let him sleep in different bed or room. So when he sleep in another place it won't be too scary for them.
If your child is old enough a sleep over at grandparent's place, Aunty/Uncle's place or even at friend's place will be good.
Don't be afraid to let your kid to experience changes. It will give them a new experience , and learn a new skills too.
If you must move your kids to other daycare /school , changing nanny, move house, move town, even country. It will teach them a lot of things to.
How to make new friends, how to adapt to new place and even how to speak the language.
Of course as parents we want to give our kids the best, but if somehow a chance come , and we refuse to take it because we are worry or scare that our kid will not like the change, how do we know if we don't try ?
Many of us , sometimes need to change job , many will resigned just a few months after. Even if that person is smart, hold a degree or diploma, has a lot of experiences, but they can't survive long in the working place. Can it be caused by the way he responds to change?
I am not saying that no body should not resign from a bad job. Of course you can, it is just the way we handle it. At least give it a try a b it longer before we called it quit.
It upset me , when I heard a person got a good opportunity but they were reluctant to move just because they dont want to come out from their comfort zone .Fear thet the children won't adapt well to new place, no new friends and no grandparents or other family. I think it is the parents who are scare not the children.
So in the time of globalization now, I think the other skills that we ( and our children) need is the ability to adapt well and how to respond to changes. Because we must admit that a good grades, hold a great diploma, have a lot fortune, speak 3 or 4 languages in the next 10-15 years it won't guarantee that someone will nail a good job.
( imagine if your kid gets an offer for a top position in a great company in another country , ok let's say India for example, but he must turn in down because he can't eat the food? or just can't be live far from you because he can't cook or do his own laundry?)
I am not suggesting that your life style must be change or travel to foreign country, or eat exotic food every single day, but if we live with an open heart, let them learn something new , instead of home -school- tuition- do homework routine, for instance let them learn roller blade or swimming? or taking sewing class or baking class or go to a near by park for picnic rather than go to mall ? or eat in the balcony once in a while instead of at the dining table?
It will make daily life more interesting too!
Another favorite quote of mine is from Little Buddha movies( by Keanu Reeves of course, my favorite actor):
To Learn is To Change.....
Personally I think this is true. We need to leave our "comfort zone" sometimes in our life, to be able to survive. We can find another comfort zone if we WANT to.
Apart of our adolescence life, I think also it is great to let our kids to take changes in life, to be more flexible. It will help us as parents too!
HOW?
Let your children used to many kind of different taste of food, a wider variety,
Many told me that I am lucky to have children that eat "everything" and not fussy. And meal time normally is a easy time for me. Of course it will be messy! But I don't have to chase and force my kids to eat.
This is VERY Helpful during family traveling and outing. We need to eat 3x a day, imagine if you stress up over what to feed your kids for every meals! It is like half of your day is gone.
Me and my husband also set a good example in front of our children. We eat everything on the table and we do not give many option to change the dishes even if they don't like it. We always say : TRY IT! and you will love it.
And often I told them that : Mamma is on a buffet restaurant that open 24 hours. What you see on the table is what you get.
Sound harsh? Actually it is for their best too. Of course I will serve the appropriate food for children
My In laws are all amazed by how well our children eat. Even it is a new food in a new place .
If your kids need a security blanket, or pillow or soft toys then it is good . You can bring this if you sleep outside.
If a child got a difficult time to adapt to a new environment , it will be hard for the parents too.
Don't blame the child or yourself. But once in a while let him sleep in different bed or room. So when he sleep in another place it won't be too scary for them.
If your child is old enough a sleep over at grandparent's place, Aunty/Uncle's place or even at friend's place will be good.
Don't be afraid to let your kid to experience changes. It will give them a new experience , and learn a new skills too.
If you must move your kids to other daycare /school , changing nanny, move house, move town, even country. It will teach them a lot of things to.
How to make new friends, how to adapt to new place and even how to speak the language.
Of course as parents we want to give our kids the best, but if somehow a chance come , and we refuse to take it because we are worry or scare that our kid will not like the change, how do we know if we don't try ?
Many of us , sometimes need to change job , many will resigned just a few months after. Even if that person is smart, hold a degree or diploma, has a lot of experiences, but they can't survive long in the working place. Can it be caused by the way he responds to change?
I am not saying that no body should not resign from a bad job. Of course you can, it is just the way we handle it. At least give it a try a b it longer before we called it quit.
It upset me , when I heard a person got a good opportunity but they were reluctant to move just because they dont want to come out from their comfort zone .Fear thet the children won't adapt well to new place, no new friends and no grandparents or other family. I think it is the parents who are scare not the children.
So in the time of globalization now, I think the other skills that we ( and our children) need is the ability to adapt well and how to respond to changes. Because we must admit that a good grades, hold a great diploma, have a lot fortune, speak 3 or 4 languages in the next 10-15 years it won't guarantee that someone will nail a good job.
( imagine if your kid gets an offer for a top position in a great company in another country , ok let's say India for example, but he must turn in down because he can't eat the food? or just can't be live far from you because he can't cook or do his own laundry?)
I am not suggesting that your life style must be change or travel to foreign country, or eat exotic food every single day, but if we live with an open heart, let them learn something new , instead of home -school- tuition- do homework routine, for instance let them learn roller blade or swimming? or taking sewing class or baking class or go to a near by park for picnic rather than go to mall ? or eat in the balcony once in a while instead of at the dining table?
It will make daily life more interesting too!
Another favorite quote of mine is from Little Buddha movies( by Keanu Reeves of course, my favorite actor):
To Learn is To Change.....
3 comments:
you aways amaze me by your blogs...hihi...it also motivates other readers out there!..hopefully we can learn a thing or two from this..:)
Oh how i totally agree with what you wrote here...more often that not most people are afraid of changes...afraid of the unknown and the willingness to move away from their comfort zone...afraid of the risks they will have to face ...but in my case making changes have so far been good for me though it wasn't easy initially esp when you get negative vibes from others...but being the hard headed person that I am...i normally will want to prove them wrong and did it anyway! hahaha...I think what is more important is you being a open minded and always think positive...This is one of my fav quotes "Today, remember that with only one stroke, a minus (-) can be turned into a plus (+)"
As for changes for kids..now tht's one area I need to learn on how to let go more as when it comes to my precious Ethan, am a bit concern and over protective at times especially after his "painful" experience when he was first born...but i realised i need to let go more..thanks for an interesting entry :)
I just read the quote and I thought this might be a great reminder for us as adult or to adapt it abit into our parenting style.
Some time being to rigid won't do any good but just adding unnecessary stress to our daily life.
glad if some you like this post :)
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