What is the secret?

If someone asked me, what is the secret of our marriage?
I simply can't answer that. The answers will be so complex.

When I was young girl. Marriage seems to be so simple. A girl meet a boy, the got married, and they live happily ever after.

I believe marriage come is different stage. And I think we are blessed that we never been in the " flat plateau" stage. A stage where everything are just routine and chores, where there are no excitement and laughter and fun anymore. I am blessed to be able to experience this marriage , that allows me to be my own self , to still have my freedom as individual as well as a couple. I am blessed to have a husband that allow me to have my time as wife and woman as well as being a mom.

That will be a lie to say that our marriage is a smooth sailing. We got bumps , bruises, scratches, cuts , and even wounds.But we also got many nice things to remember by, and many stories and jokes to share.

To fall in love is the easiest part, to stay in love is much harder. And marriage? tripled it up!

Our loves has changed, it is more matured now and more nurturing than our young loves a dozen years ago. Our priorities has changed , but deep down we are still two young individuals in love.

So what is the key to good marriage? love it self is not enough. I have witness people who fell in love and the marriage crumbled apart. Respect is another key. But I think to be comfortable with my own skin it helps a lot. I know my husband likes me for who I am, anyway that is why he married me right? ^_^I don't have to pretend or act a certain way in front of him. He knows me inside and out. We are each other best friends. And that what is count.

And the other thing that is important is that we are each other solid rocks. When outside world can be gray and dull, we support each other in ups and downs.

" Do not marry someone you can live with... you marry the person you can not live without!"

I totally agree of the above quote. And there are more that I think is either funny and true ^_^

Women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed.

Remember that a successful marriage depends on two things: (1) finding the right person and (2) being the right person

Right now as me and my dh has been sailing this marriage ship for a decade we are still learning and discovering our love and our relationship ... Our marriage is not perfect, sometimes we struggle, we fell but we did go up again.

Cheers to all married women out there! If you think your relationship is struggling at the moment, then you are not alone. We all have been there !

NR, Ti Amo per sempre.... :)