It is great to watch this with our husband too. It is an entertaining movie but it's also remind us to respect , value and the most important is to have fun with our spouse.
In our daily life, we talk a lot with our spouse, but mostly it is out of " necessities" like: what bills to pay, the children tuition fees, where and what to eat for dinner, etc etc"
Many couples do not connect to each other like they used to before married or before children. And it is not rare , in some cases, some couple fell " weird" around each other when no one is around them ( no children, no parents, no friends, no in laws) They feel "lost" and " can't enjoy each other company" if there are just 2 of them.
In Asia , it is common practice to bring parents, in laws for vacations, dinner, sleep over. The more the merrier. And it is a great value to teach to our kids. For holiday season like Christmas, Chinese New Year, Hari Raya,etc. Or it is also common to go holiday with bunch of other families and relatives.
While the western tradition, while it is a tradition to spend time with family too during holiday season ( Easter, Christmas,Thanks Giving, etc) , they are also sometimes more on the "selfish" side compare to the Asian.
In the meaning of : it is rare that grandparents will take a full care of the grand children, because the elderly there will enjoy the most of their golden years ( taking cruise, go to holiday all around the world), and once the kids' reach 18 or 20 they will move out from the house and try to earn some money while studying by working part time . Mean while in Asia, it is normal to have the grandparents to take care of the grandchildren full time, and it is common to live together with in laws even after the children got married, surprisingly some people are still getting financial support from their own parents.
Nothing good or bad, right or wrong , it is all depends on what we want in life. I want my parents to enjoy more in their golden years. Though it will be great to have sometimes our parents to take care of our children but to take care of them full time is a hard job, and I don't want to give them any more financial burden . They 've done their job to take care of us and spend money for us, it is time to give something back in return.
Back to the couple thing , I think when a couple can't enjoy each other company anymore without the " buffering" person, I might say there are some "glitch" in the relationship. When a couple can't have fun anymore there is a " glitch" too. When the couple don't enjoy each other touch or like to cuddle anymore or even worst decreasing of the sex life, there are some " glitch".
All married have glitch here and there. There are no perfect marriage. But when marriage turns to "work" then we must find the way back to make it " enjoyable".
Fix that glitch now ! Why don't it start with going to cinema with your spouse? The Couple Retreat is a great movie for couple. :)
Happy weekend!
2 comments:
hahaha..today i spent the whole day with dh without sona and I feel 'bad'..feel empty without her although it's only temporary.( my mum force me to let sona stay with her for a week to wean her- not sure if i can tahan a week..)
hmm..me and dh try to mix asian and western lifestyle,we don't really like all the asian style and my parents make it to the point to us that we have to look after our kids ourself, they will help but not on a full time basis and i agree with them.holidays, we try to have one for the big family and one for our small family every year so we won;t miss out all the good times..so far so good la, and true as you said, it depends on us, it's our life afterall..
I am waiting to watch this movie too.. ^_^..
yeah.. I agreed that we should give some space for the elderly to enjoy themselves.. But my in law diff cases.. desperate wanted to take care our kid.. But I never let it happen.. ^_^.. will let my boy visit them but don't want to give burden to them... but diff with my parents hahahha... they want to relax on their golden days... hahahaha...
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