Finally .....

Ok, so the search is over. Indy just passed the test for her new primary school next year. Will start in 5th of January.

I think she will do fine in this school. The school is using ACE ( accelerated Christian Curriculum) and emphasized on character building, which we think it is important as well. The system of learning are more into independent self learning .

The details are like this :

Students are provided with an individualized learning program that emphasizes on character-building and the Word of God, training the children to think well, act responsibly and live wisely. We are working towards integrating this curriculum with our national curriculum to fit in with the requirements as set by the Ministry of Education.

Accelerated Christian Education's concepts are based on the following Five Basic Laws of Learning:

* A child must be at a level where he can perform.
* He must have reasonable goals.
* His learning must be controlled, and he must be motivated.
* His learning must be measurable.
* His learning must be rewarded.

I am so grateful that Malaysian School System ( and mostly in ASIA) require the students to wear uniforms. I think it is an important step. I don't want to imagine sending my girl into the school like what they show in the T.V. That they can wear whatever they want, put on make up, do their hair in the rainbow color . What a night mare!

And yesterday I bought a magazine, Women's Weekly November 2008 issue about Stress in School age children. Some lines that caught my attention are:

Are you stressing out your kids?
......It's the great expectations from adults that become the stressors and bring on ill effects for the kids" says Dr. Daniel Fung , a child and adolescent psychiatry specialist
Dr. Fung explains: " it doesn't matter if a child doesn't do well in school.What matters is he doesn't do well and the parent or teacher is unhappy- the child then feels like he has failed in fulfilling their expectations"
....Middle class parents - the doctors, lawyers and accountants- want their kids to excel top in school just like they did, while blue collar workers want their kids to move up the social ladder " So you don't have to end up like me, living in a small flat..
For them, good grades are the ticket note Dr Clare Chong a school psychologist. Some parents live through their children and that push, whether done consciously or unconsciously, is passed on to their children
...An average student in primary school will feel like a failure, who never seems to make it when he pits himself against his smarter friends.

How can we help?
Rewards him for his effort , not his grades.
Expect him to perfom for his age , not yours
Practice good enough parenting


This is a very interesting parenting article. Make me think and review and remind my self not to expect the high goals for our children. And to think that they are living in the world that has more pressure, higher goals, more competitive than our childhood time. So give them a break once in a while, I didn't need to deal with Math and Mandarin and B. Malaysia, reading and writing when I was 6 years old... And my parent never force be to be the number one in the class or in any competition. They are happy enough to see me join the " makan keropok competition and won it "
And my moms said : I knew that you will won that! You can eat a lot!!


hmm...something will never change.......